Fun says, "Year 2008 C.E., my year of resolution."

Coming year 2008 C.E., I wish to jot down some new year resolutions. I term them the 5 Hards.

1. I want to study hard.
2. I want to study hard.
3. I want to study hard.
4. I want to train hard.
5. Hard is not hard at all.

Hope I can do well and keep strictly to my 5 resolutions.

Fun says, "Rape case on the rise?"

Is our society getting messier by the day with all sorts of social illness such as rape, rob, murder or drug abuse? I do not know. But recently, I stumbled into a forum. A thread there discuss extensively on prevention and protection from getting raped. It reminded me of cases I heard from my friends about their friends who fell victim to the heartless men.

Is there a perfect way to protect yourself from being a victim? There are literally hundreds of advices out there for us to refer to. But each and every one of them has their own pros and cons. For example, some suggest pepper spray. But from the little knowledge I have about the purses/bags of girls, I think that by the the time they can find the spray in their purses/bags they are already raped. Some other people will suggest that you always keep your hand on the spray when you are out. Then you run the risk of spraying your friends. Or worse, your boss or your customer. You might become paranoia as well if you keep your hand and mind on the spray every time you go out.

So, no matter what is suggested, there will be always loopholes. However, better be prepared with something with loopholes rather than be totally unprepared. So, here's a few pointers I got from reading from the forum and also from my own experience in martial arts.

1. Always be aware of your surrounding.
Human are very capable of reading body language. When you are aware of your surrounding, you will be giving out the body language of being prepared and alert. Most rapist will see and feel this. They will less likely attack you as they have the fear of getting caught or beaten up. Also, by being aware of your surrounding, you have higher chance of noticing fishy events around you. You might just have that extra milliseconds to react. This can give you a lot of advantage. Besides that, activities such as text-ing or talking on the phone should be reduced as they distract you from your surrounding.

2. Always try to bring something that can be used as a weapon of self-defense.
The most recommended item to bring will be umbrella. The reason is, you can use it for sunny day, rainy day or emergency. Also, its length can be an advantage. Keys, hair sprays, perfumes, files, high heels and many other seemingly safe items can be used as weapons. Use your creativity and you can find ways to use them against the attacker.

3. Study the human body to learn about weak points in the body.
No matter how strong a man, he will still have weaknesses. Even superman has a weakness. Being able to identify them and attack them will give you an advantage. Most people will argue that girls are weaker than guys but you don't need a fatal blow to take down a guy on his weak points. A direct poke on the person's eye will most probably make him release you. This will win you time to run and scream for help.

4. Learn martial arts if it is possible
I recommend Judo. The reason being that I notice most martial arts cannot prepare you to be able to defend yourself in a short time (less than 6 months). I personally think that 2 hours a week in judo can prepare you to defend yourself within 3 months. Jujitsu can also be an alternative. However, if you want something more graceful and elegant, you can try traditional Chen Style Tai Chi or Aikido. Why am I not recommending Tae Kwon Do or Karate? Because it is too common. The rapist might have done his homework in advance to counter basic attacks of these 2 arts. And I'm not saying these 2 arts are no good. They are great.

5. Learn how to run, fast.
Always keep fit. You wouldn't want to be breathless and tired within seconds of fleeing from the attacker. So, doing some cardiovascular exercise often is good for protecting yourself, from attackers and diseases as well.

6. Despite all the rubbish I said, running is always the best option!
Flee, run, escape. That's the best choice of action. Even some 6th or 7th dan master from some famous martial arts will still say they would rather run. If you fight, you risk getting hurt, or worse, killed.

7. Lastly, always bring condoms with you.
If worse comes to worst that you cannot escape and cannot do a thing, at the very least, plead the rapist to wear condom. It will protect you from STD or bearing the rapist's child.

Girls, please do take good care of yourself. If anyone wants more information on the 3rd, 4th or 5th item, feel free to contact me. I'm very willing to help. Of course if you need help with the 7th item, I'll be willing to help as well. (*with a wolfish grin...)

May HaShem bless us all with protection and bless the rapists with conscience that they will stop their actions. Amen.

Shalom.

Fun says, "People just love to spread lies."

It's really amazing people love to spread lies.

There was this advertisement saying, "If you buy one thing and get something else with the same value for free, it is like it's free! So quickly come and get it, since it is free!". If you analyse the statements clearly, they are implying that 1 - 0 = 0 instead of 1 - 0 = 2 * 0.5 = 1. And there are people who believe in the former equation and bought the items.

There's another ad, claiming that they can make the calcium atoms smaller!!! And they call it nanocalcium! Anyone with scientific knowledge knows that that is a total lie but the government approve of such advertisement on the TV, spreading lies to the consumers.

In another ad, they teach that pH 5.5 is neutral. I wonder where they got the idea. But anyone who study basic science knows that pH 5.5 is acidic. pH 7 is the real neutral.

No wonder there are people saying that businessmen are wicked and evil. Their reputations are being marred by these unscrupulous people. And it makes me wonder why the government isn't doing something to correct such misinformation on the TV?

Fun says, "I think this is from the Sages of old, 'Give a man a fish and you feed him a day, teach a man to fish and you feed him for life.'"

We all know that the ultimate charity is to help people to be able to support themselves. Yet, the most prevalence concept of charity is donation, which usually ends up as feeding the poor people for only a day. There's another concept of charity known as microfinance loan.

Upon hearing the word "loan", you might think that this is not a charity. However, if you think deeply enough, by giving a loan, you help the person to commit himself to growth and expansion. With this loan, the person can start a small business which will generate income for him. Thus he will be able to feed himself for life and he will also be able to return the loan, which you can again use to help another person. Isn't this beautiful?

You can find out more on http://www.microplace.com

Fun says, "Very often, we take things for granted, that's usually the time disaster will strike."

We are all forgetful, careless and myopic. We all know what's wrong with ourselves. However, are we doing something to change? No, we are not. We are taking things for granted. We think it's ok to be this way because other people are this way too. This leads to many troubles we face today. It's time we care more, do more and look further before the ultimate disaster strikes...

Fun says, "Listening to the voices in your head?"

Do you hear voices in your head? I'm sure everyone has somewhat similar experiences. It's especially distinctive when you hear two voices with one telling you to go ahead with an action and the other voice keeps on giving various reasons to bail out on the action. At times like this, we sure feel confused. We will try various methods such as consulting a friend or a teacher to find the best course of action. But when you have no one around, things are the worst.

I'm sure most people will agree that having two opposing voice in their head is not a nice thing to go around with. Try imagining having them all the time. 24/7. Inside your head. Arguing, nonstop. Each time one voice gets louder than the other. That sure is torturing. That's the life I'm living...

PS: I'm not hearing any voice from any angel!!! And I'm not insane!!! Just that my left-brain and my right-brain seem to think independently...:P

Fun says, "An observation"

You know, human is whole bunch of funny lot.

When you treat them nicely, they say, "You are good, I am bad. I don't deserve you." Then they treat you like shit.

When you treat them badly, abusing them and making them suffer, they yell at you saying, "Why must you do this to me!!!" Then they take off they clothes and make love to you till you want to die.

So, is karma real? What you give is what you get in return? I don't know. Maybe this law applies to everything in the universe except for human relationship.

And I believe it's time for me to mutate into another species. Then I won't have to bear the humiliation of human's stupidity. And also, since that I've mutated, I'm no more human, meaning I'm an animal, meaning it's totally ok for me to be stupid. What a great way to escape!

Fun says, "A parable - The Fly"

Even a fool knows to not be a fool forever.
So a despicable fly will not be a fly forever.
It shall find a place it belongs...

范说:"我的漫画 - 远虑近忧"

范:(长篇大论,说得天花乱醉)

甲:阿范,别想太远了啦.

范:人无远虑,必有近忧.

甲:可是我们现在眼前就有解决不了的问题啊,怎能想那么远呢?

范:那是因为你以前都没想那么远,所以现在就有近忧.

我想表达的是...???

计划与成功是相关的!

Fun says, "There's an old Chinese saying, '学如逆水行舟，不进则退.'"

Meaning: Learning is like going upstream on a boat, if you don't progress, then you are going backwards.

This principle applies to life as well.

If you don't paddle, you will definitely move backward, falling behind on life.

So, you must paddle your boat of life nonstop.

But, please, paddle on the right direction.

Don't paddle downstream simply because it is easier to do so.

范说:"单身的我,正如歌词的描述..."

林志炫的单身情歌的歌词:

抓不住爱情的我
总是眼睁睁看它溜走
世界上幸福的人到处有
为何不能算我一个
为了爱孤军奋斗
早就吃够了爱情的苦
在爱中失落的人到处有
而我只是其中一个
爱要越错越勇
爱要肯定执着
每一个单身的人得看透
想爱就别怕伤痛
找一个最爱的 深爱的 想爱的 亲爱的
人来告别单身
一个多情的 痴情的 绝情的 无情的
人来给我伤痕
孤单的人那么多
快乐的没有几个
不要爱过了 错过了 留下了
单身的我独自唱情歌
为了爱孤军奋斗
早就吃够了爱情的苦
在爱中失落的人到处有
而我不是最后一个
爱要越错越勇
爱要肯定执着
每一个单身的人得看透
想爱就别怕伤痛
找一个最爱的 深爱的 想爱的 亲爱的
人来告别单身
一个多情的 痴情的 绝情的 无情的
人来给我伤痕
孤单的人那么多
快乐的没有几个
不要爱过了 错过了 留下了
单身的我独自唱情歌
找一个最爱的 深爱的 想爱的 亲爱的
人来告别单身
一个多情的 痴情的 绝情的 无情的
人来给我伤痕
伤心的人那么多
我应该勇敢而过
不要爱过了 错过了 留下了
单身的我独自唱情歌
这首真心的 痴心的 伤心的
单身情歌
谁与我来合...

范说:"183 Club & 7朵花的闭上眼 默念三遍 :'希望你理解爱上你有多难 像童话里的故事可恶的安排.'"

如果相爱,再可恶的安排都不怕,因为有爱,所以一切都值得.
如果只是我一厢情愿,那我就是笨蛋一个,傻傻为你付出.

不知这童话会否有完美的结局...

范说:"2R的模范男孩:'不懂模范男孩的心里把爱给放在哪里.'"

模范男孩的好,只会被女孩视为苦闷.所以想谈恋爱的男孩,有谁敢要做模范呢?坏男孩都是你们这些好女孩亲手教出来的.

Fun says, "Isn't there enough of hatred like racism, sexism, ageism, classism, religious intolerance, etc, etc?"

It still baffles me despite such behaviour is accepted to be bad for our health and the society in general. Yet people still do embrace such STUPID behaviour thinking that they are in for lots of fun and happiness...

And they cause all sorts of problems, with the minor ones such as shouting matches...and the serious one...world war...

Haiz...

Enough of hating, my dear friends. It's time to LOVE!!!
L.O.V.E. LOVE!

Fun says, "Why hate if we can love more?"

Why hurt each other if we can make each other happier?
Why be upset if we can be happy?
Why suffer if we can enjoy?
Why steal and rob if we can ask for it?
Why hoard if we have so much to give?
Why be selfish if we can all share?

Love is the only key to happiness and world peace. Love more. Don't hate! LOVE MORE!!!

范说:"你告诉我说我们是朋友,可是我希望我们不只是朋友,但有时你却让我感觉连朋友都不是."

所以我们之间到底是什么呢?

想疼你,但又很气你对我这么冷漠,我到底该怎么办...

Fun says, "Robert Palmer's Addicted to Love, 'You can't be saved, oblivion is all you crave.'"

I've never heard of the original song by Robert Palmer (in fact, I don't even know if Robert Palmer is the original artiste...), but listening to Ah Mei's version, I really like the song. And yes, I can't be saved, and oblivion is all I crave. I'm addicted to love!!! :P

Fun says, "Air Supply's I'll Never Get Enough of You, 'And if I never have another love, well at least I had last night.'"

Appreciate what you've got.
Don't complain.
For you are already given what you really need.
Be happy with it.

If you appreciate it now,
At least in the future,
You won't feel regret when you lose it.

So, I really appreciate the little time we've spent together.
I will be there for you whenever you need me (provided that I'm informed...:P).
And if I lose you,
At least we were happy together once before...

Fun says, "Learning to love..."

Though it was decreed that we were never meant to be,
Yet, there seem to be so numerous,
The coincidences that continuously giving me hope,
Hope to somehow win your heart.

Is this a torture?
For giving me hope, yet unable to get it?
No, it isn't.

It is a test. A training.
To teach me how to love.
To love HaShem like my lover.
And to love all the people around me.
To love not only the girl I'm totally infatuated with.

For I have learned,
Thus I will still love as I have loved,
But I will love more,
Not only you, but HaShem and all His creation as well.

Fun says, "The ability to see complexity in the simplest and simplicity in the most complex is only available to those who seek."

Many things are so complex and yet they are very simple such as life and love. And when we've search thoroughly, seeking meaning to these things, then only will we be opened to the great wisdom and understanding behind them.

范说:"最快乐,最有意思的生活,是从苦闷的生活中领悟出来."

Fun says, "The happiest and most meaningful life is to be understood from our mundane and boring lives."

别伤心,别气馁,继续为这苦闷的人生加油.因为这本身已经是幸福,快乐.
Do not be sad, do not give up, continue your effort in life. Because this by itself is happiness.

范は言い:"宇多田ヒカルのFirst Love:'今はまだ悲しい love song, 新しい歌 歌えるまで.'"

Fun says, "Utada Hikaru's First Love, 'It's still a sad love song, until I can sing a new one'"

Though I know we were never meant to be, I still love you as much. Though it hurts like hell and shit, I still want to give it a try...

It's just like SISSEL's Summer Snow:
It's summer snow in the deep blue sea,
I try to touch but it fades away,
It must be a dream I will never get,
Just like my love that's crying for you.

Fun says, "Going one step beyond can make a big difference in life."

If we can just go one small step beyond in each thing that we do, we can make such a big difference in our lives. A small step beyond such as helping a friend before he asked, doing your chores more often or faster, give an extra smile to your beloved... Small as is it, such steps can give you a happier life. Use your creativity to go beyond and you will see your life getting better.

范说:"本多Ruru的美丽心情:'只有曾天真给过的心 才了解等待中的甜蜜.'"

有时还会甜到当了傻瓜,也还不知道.等到最后,才发现什么也得不到.爱情就是如此的盲目...

范说:"有人说:'爱一个不爱你的人,为什么不爱一个爱你的人?'"

Fun says, "Someone said, 'Instead of loving someone who doesn't love you, why don't you love someone who loves you?'"

范回答说:"原因是找不到一个爱我的人,所以我只可以默默地爱一个不爱我的人."
Fun replies saying, "The reason is I can't find some who loves me, so I can only silently love someone who doesn't love me."

Fun says, "My Comic - What I'm saying is..."

I say a statement.

Someone: Wah, so deep, I can't understand you.

Then I go into the details, trying to explain in simple sentences.

Someone: (Impatiently) Eh, straight to the point, ok?

Then I jump straight to the point.

Someone: Eh, what sh*t are you talking here? No one understand lar...

I go insane and jump off the cliff...

Fun says, "Air Supply's All Out of Love, 'I wish I could carry your smile and my heart.'"

Quote from Air Supply's All Out of Love:
I wish I could carry your smile in my heart
For times when my life feels so low
It would make me believe what tomorrow could bring
When today doesn't really know, doesn't really know

If I really do not know today and tomorrow,
I'd be more than happy to carry your sweet smile,
To remember the ups and downs that we've shared together,
To fall madly in love with you,
To give you all the love that I can find.

But,
Tomorrow being shown to me,
That we were never meant to be,
That it's destined to be tears and sadness,
How can I bear to love you more,
Knowing that I'll lose you for sure?

Should I hold on to what I've got,
Because of the joy that I've received?
Or should I let go quickly,
To spare myself of the agony?
Or should I act like I never know today and tomorrow,
And continue to love you as I did,
And only worry about being sad when I lose you?

I felt like a patient with a terminal disease,
Knowing that the end is just around the corner,
Wanting to love and to have you by my side,
Yet, I couldn't bear to lose it all,
When the time finally comes.

What a great dilemma I've got...

范说:"林晓培的不哭:'如果爱你是种盲目 我不在乎没了退路 要拿永远当赌注.'"

Fun says, "Shino's Don't Cry, 'If loving you is blind, I don't mind having no where to retreat, wanting to stake forever in this bet.'"

就算心再痛,也要忍住不哭.
Even if it hurts so much, I must still refrain from crying.

就算输了一切,只要看见你是快乐的,那就值得了.
Even if I lose everything, seeing that you are happy makes it all worth it.

Fun says, "That's what friends are for, helping each other out."

This is my motto. If you are my friend, let me help you when you need me to. Just as I wish you will be there for me when I need you. This is the true meaning of friendship...

Fun says, “Patti Smith's Sometimes Love Just Ain't Enough, ‘Baby, sometimes, love just ain’t enough.’”

Throughout our lives, we fall in love and we fall out of love. Some are sweet and some are bitter. And we soon learn that it takes more than love to maintain a relationship. Be it bitter or sweet, at the very least, we know we truly loved and may it all become beautiful, though not sweet, memories. May all find happiness in love.

Fun says, "Robert Jordan's Wheel of Time novel series, 'Death lighter than feather, duty heavier than mountain.'"

It is obvious that running away from duty is a very easy way of doing, or should I say not doing, things. However, when there's no running away and that you must really take up the duty, it will be among the toughest things in life.

Looking at it from another perspective, a mountain can be very light, if the burden is shared among many people. So, if only everyone will just step up and take their share of the duty instead of running away, then the world can be a better place. World peace will not be impossible. If only...

范说:"孙燕姿的爱情字典:'在爱情字典里找不到永远.'"

可是在现实字典里却找到了永远,而找不到爱情.因为人越来越自私,真正的爱情也因此而消失了.剩下的就是无边无际,永远的寂寞.

范说:"弦子的沿海地带:'紧紧抓着的也都只是空白.'"

曾经几时的梦想,用努力去追求.可是到后来才发现,真的只是一场梦,追逐的只不过是影子.

虽然是空白,人生却又不能没有梦想.因为梦想会带来希望,希望会带来欢喜,欢喜会带来满足.这样才不会白白的浪费了你的人生.为梦想继续加油吧!

范说:"五月天的纯真:'我想我应该轻轻 放开你的手 我却没有力气 这么做.' "

人是自私的动物,因为我们拥有了,就再也不愿意放手了.虽然明知道坚持只会带来更多痛苦,但我们还是想要.所以只能希望痛苦可以把我们唤醒,让我们真的放手.

Fun says, "Pray hard and thou shall be answered."

Though not necessarily the way you might have wished for. You might not have noticed but many of your prayers were answered. You didn't notice simply because it was not answered the way you wished for. Someone prayed hard for finding someone whom he can love. And his prayer was answered. He found a lovely girl and he loved her so much. However, unexpectedly, she's already attached before he knew her. Bummer for him. He should have prayed for a girlfriend instead. So, guys and girls out there, be careful what you pray for because it will be answered.

Fun says, "Love is giving. Love itself is happiness, even without owning."

Recently, I have learned to love. Love is all about giving, about giving the best of all you have to the ones you love. Simply by loving, you get happiness. Though you might not have your beloved beside you, though your beloved might not love you in return, your constant giving without asking for return is happiness. You don’t have to own the ones you love to be happy. You just need to see them happy. Then you are happy.

Just like I am happy seeing that you are happy...

Fun says, "My poem - The Lonely."

In the depths of the night,
Shadow is the only company for the lonely,
A dark companion,
Unwanted,
Yet stubbornly holding its position,
Sitting there as time flowed by.

Then came the first light,
Shining forth from the horizon,
Bringing hope to the lonely,
For he saw that salvation will be arriving,
When the morning broke.

Filled with hope and anticipation,
The lonely closed his eyes,
Wishing for brightness to rule the earth again,
Feeling the warmth of the sun heating up his skin,
Joy overwhelmed his mind,
Until…

Until the first drop of rain fell on him,
He opened his eyes only to see the horror of darkness again,
Gloomy clouds covering the whole sky,
Bringing heavy downpour to the earth,
Washing away all dreams of illumination.

Disappointed and battered,
He retired into his hiding,
Waiting again,
With the shadow…
Waiting…

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